Love Dare: day 38

Day: 38
Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

Psalm 37:4 (NIV)
Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart.

As you see I skipped days 36 & 37. Those days had to do with praying together and reading the Bible together. I skipped them because A) we have family Bible study every week (even though we've been slacking lately it'll pick back up) and B) I can ask him to pray with me and read with me but to be honest I know it wont happen. Or at least it wont last. At one point he started having family prayer every morning, we only did that a few times before we stopped. I need to remind him to get back on track with things so that we as a family can get it going. Its not his whole responsibility but I forget too because I get preoccupied. So its my fault too.

I often say that I believe 100% that Mr Wonderful can have the music career of his dreams, and I really do, but I never pray for it. I dont know why! I guess I just have so much faith that it will happen that I dont feel I NEED to pray. But I will start praying now. Every night I'll add it to my God bless my family, friends and pets... prayer ;)

Love dare: day 35

Day: 35
Find a marriage mentor—someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.



Proverbs 15:22 (NIV)

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.


My marriage mentor is Sharon. I talk to her about everything. And even though sh is divorced she doesnt have a biased opinion. She's very helpful. And I think once we get to Kissimmee, we'll be seeking counseling shortly thereafter.

Love dare: day 34

Day: 34
Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.

1 Corinthians 13:6 (NIV)
[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.

Last night I told my husband that I was doing the love dare the conversation went like this:

MW: what was your 1st dare?
Me: to not say any negative things and only say positive.
MW: is that why you've been so nice?
Me: ::laughs:: yes
MW: and this was today?
Me: no, it was 32 days ago.
MW: ::stunned look:: really?!
Me: yeah, I'm on day 33
.....pause and silence.....
MW: ::jokingly:: does this mean the niceness is going to stop soon? Since the dare will be over?
Me: no, because that was only the 1st day, you have to institute the (collective) dares each day.
....another pause and silence.....
MW: ::no longer joking:: so does this mean our marriage is trouble?
Me: it means at one point I did think our marriage was in trouble. So I started the dare and its taught me a lot and helped me change my mind set.

That was the end of that. I went and sat with him after I was finished cleaning the kitchen and dozed off under his arm and on his chest. The best place in the world to be.

I think Mr Wonderful tries to glorify God on a regular basis. But like myself he doesnt always succeed. So I think commending him on this might help encourage him...now I just have to think of something specific. This is hard. I have no clue what specific thing I could point out to him. When I get stuck for ideas I look at the Official Love Dare website but today it isnt very helpful. I mean the one entry there talks about a husband doing things he SHOULD do but doesnt have to and how appreciative the poster is. I thank him on a regular basis for being so helpful and running Piglet to and from the sitters. And being helpful around the house when he can. So...20mins into writing this blog I sent him a text. I wasnt exactly sure what I was going to write but I found something to say. It said truly what I felt "I'm so glad that you're a godly man & that you love me & the kids enough to sacrifice for us".